Hi again! I am back with another blog. I was re-reading my first one “Shame: Managing Stormy Days” the other day and thought it was, “to my surprise” not bad.
I say this not with an ego. I say it as “An Adult Child Of An Alcoholic” who can still slip back to that spot of low self-esteem. Not for long and for sure not as often BUT the feelings don’t change. In that spot, I was quite nervous about my first writings here.
The thought or the fear was…..
“Will I write something worth reading? A thought not new to me. I shared those same feelings with my wife Linda when she first asked me to write our book “Weathering Shame”. Remember when I talked in that first blog about the Lack Of Awareness Around How I Grew Up? I also noted that Growing awareness during the beginning of my “Journey Toward Wellness” helped build successes and to make better choices. All true!
However the biggest change along the way is a growing confidence in myself and that has helped me feel more positive about ME!
I got there by being very aware of both my Strengths & Weaknesses and accepting both.
- Re-reading my first blog has me feeling that I made several good points that I am really proud of.
- I have heard and taken in positive feedback from you the public and the folks at “Health Affiliates Maine”.
- A new habit, replacing the old habit of discounting kind words. That was around how I felt about myself.
- I am growing and learning of being able to acknowledge small successes.
- Being less concerned about what other people think of me including not going to a negative place with it.
The most important change happening is a True Feeling of Self-Worth!
Not being in such a rush to finish tasks. Being a better listener and offering support not solutions and the most important realization..“DON’T BE INVESTED IN THE OUTCOME!” If you have read our book “Weathering Shame” you know how much of a problem I had around these issues. Has it gone away completely? Of course not! But I do feel a strong shift in feelings and my behavior.
So at this point in my journey, I do believe that what I am saying around the issues of Shame and stigma is helping those who hear or read my words to maybe begin sharing their own stories and struggles with someone they trust.
In closing, MY THANKS to those who have thanked me for my role in Health affiliates Maine TV and Radio campaign. The recovery stories being shared by others are amazing and powerful.
ACCEPTANCE IS ONE IMPORTANT STEP ON THE JOURNEY TOWARDS WELLNESS